Leading During Personal Adversity: A Guide for Executives

We often discuss leading businesses through adversity, but what about leading when YOU are going through personal adversity?

How do you show up daily to lead others and a business when navigating your own personal crisis?

Understanding Personal Crisis

Let's be clear about what constitutes a personal crisis. We're not talking about minor setbacks like a fender bender or an unexpected bill. We're referring to life-altering events such as:

• The death of a close family member
• Financial peril that threatens your way of life
• A serious medical diagnosis for you or a loved one

These are the crises that cut to your core and have the potential to shake your foundation.

Strategies for Leading Through Personal Adversity

1. Set Clear Priorities

Be honest with yourself about what you can and cannot (and should and should not) do during this time. Reassess your to-do list and adjust accordingly.

2. Communicate Strategically

Share your situation with key individuals who can support you:

• Your direct supervisor
• Close peers
• Your team (as appropriate)

If you're not comfortable sharing details, a simple statement like, "I may be out from time to time handling a personal situation. Our supervisor and HR are aware, so all is handled here. I appreciate your understanding" can suffice.

3. Ask for Help

This may not come naturally, but asking for and accepting help is often crucial to personal and professional growth.

4. Practice Self-Care

Identify what self-care means to you—whether it's exercise, meditation, socializing, or simply getting enough sleep—and prioritize it.

5. Show Self-Compassion

For high-achieving executives, accepting that you can't do it all can be challenging. Give yourself grace and forgiveness during this time.

A Leader's Story

Sarah, the CEO of a mid-sized tech company, faced this challenge when her spouse was diagnosed with a serious illness. Initially, she tried to maintain her usual workload while supporting her partner through treatment. However, she quickly realized this wasn't sustainable.

Sarah decided to be transparent with her executive team about her situation. She delegated some of her responsibilities, adjusted meeting schedules to accommodate medical appointments, and made a conscious effort to prioritize self-care.

By communicating clearly and allowing herself to be vulnerable with her team, Sarah not only managed to lead effectively during this personal crisis but also fostered a more empathetic and supportive company culture.

Give Yourself Grace

Whatever your crisis, give yourself the grace to manage through it personally and professionally in the time and space required. Remember, showing vulnerability and asking for support when needed can actually strengthen your leadership and your team.

Leading during personal adversity is challenging, but with the right strategies and mindset, it's possible to navigate these difficult waters while maintaining your effectiveness as a leader.